This blog has been a long time coming. For years, people have suggested to me that I blog and share videos about relationships, but, I kept putting it off. I made myself think that posting on social media was enough to share my passion for women and relationships. It wasn’t! I also talked myself out of it many times because I wondered what gave me the right to give you guys advice?! I used to be so “judgy” when people had a relationship blog and no man or husband. I would think, “Girl, call me when someone puts a ring on it, because you sound like a fool telling me what to do to find or keep a man and you are Lonely Lucy over there”. Then, when God sent my husband, I was like, “well, I have only been married for 5 minutes, so, maybe now is not the time to act like I have all the answers over here”. Lastly, I even thought to myself, “well, I don’t have a lot of followers, so, who will even care”? But, those days are over. I’m happy to be blogging and creating a community of women who know they are not alone in the world of dating and relationships. We are in this together!
I can only speak from my heart, experiences and things I have observed over the years. If anything comes across harsh or overly traditional, please don’t charge it to my heart. I love women, I love being a woman and I adore seeing women happy, successful and in loving relationships. I am the girl who will be up all night watching proposal videos on YouTube, crying for people who I will never meet. If I just met you and you randomly tell me you are going through a breakup or divorce, my heart immediately aches for you and I have to hear the story to give my two cents. I have cried and prayed with random people in restaurant bathrooms, clubs and doctor’s offices who opened up to me about their love lives and just needed someone to talk to. With that being said, no shade will be thrown, only truth and love. Leave comments and let me know what you think. I’m open to hear your feedback!
So, welcome to Cortnihillwashington.com ! Here, anything goes. I want to hear from you guys about your relationships and I want to tell you about mine. I want us as women to date as healthy and as happy as possible knowing that a man doesn’t complete us, but, a good man simply enhances our lives. I speak from experience when I say that because, that is something I came to realize for myself. I have this odd belief that relationships are not supposed to be hard. I know, calm down. Don’t shoot me. But, for years people have told us that “love hurts”, “relationships are hard work”, or you have to fight or overlook some things to be in a lasting relationship. Why?? What the hell? Why do I have to be in deep one on one therapy just to have a partner in life? My theory is that somewhere, we got it wrong and started to teach each other to accept wrong, embrace wrong and see “wrong” as love. I hope you know that by “wrong”, I mean wrong treatment. Wrong treatment and ignored red flags go hand in hand.
Why am I so passionate about this? Because, I used to abide by the “relationships are hard work” mantra. I accepted being 45th place for numerous men I dated and even one I was engaged to! Of course I had thousands of signs that we were like water and oil for each other, but, I kept “fighting “ and accepting wrong to show him that I was loyal and loved him. All the while, I had not allowed myself to fully accept the conclusion that he was going to eventually break my heart and be bad news for me in the long run. So, trust me, I get it, I’ve been there.
Together, let’s figure this thing out, build ourselves up and go on to the best relationships that God has in store for us. We can do this! You are not alone, Love! More posts to come!